Showing posts with label boys. Show all posts
Showing posts with label boys. Show all posts

Wednesday, June 25, 2014

Writing with Pride: creating LGBTQ kids' books that don't make it an "issue."



Are you proud of who you are?

I hope so.

But as much as I wish I could say that pride was enough to create a great kids' book... it's not.  The last few years have seen a flood of LGBTQ-oriented kids' books rushed into print... not all of which are fantastic.

I want to say this up-front:  I am not LGBTQ, and I write this as a white woman married to a white man.  So some would say that we're uniquely privileged... and that members of a minority should take any opportunity they can get to show families like theirs.

I don't want to argue with that.  I want to believe, instead, that there's a way to do that that doesn't undermine the cause.  And that way is to write a great story, with characters that happen to be... well, whatever type of characters you want to depict.

Why pride isn't enough

Too many of these books, particularly the classic ones, focus on the central "issue" - that there are two mommies, two daddies, that somebody is transgendered, whatever it is.  And those kinds of books are not only generally tedious to read, but also don't appeal to children.

      
I have a mom and a mom... or a dad and a dad!

The message of these stories is usually pretty simple-minded:  yes, we're different, but we're happy and our lives are full of love.  It's certainly not an offensive message....but neither is it very interesting, or engaging to a child.

I wear a dress, even though I'm a boy!

Children, by nature, take most situations at face value.  It's us grown-ups who have trouble processing things that are new or different.  If a kid has two mommies, she knows it and doesn't usually love it or hate it - it just IS.  If somebody at school has a problem with that (probably not another kid; probably one of us closed-minded grown-ups), there are ways of reassuring kids without making a big deal out of it.

Another thing about "issues" books?  They get dated REALLY fast.

Books centred around the theme of overcoming intolerance and educating the general public are going to seem very, very odd in a decade or two when it's just Not a Thing (as my 18-year-old daughter would say).

Want to know the worst offense when it comes to "issues" books?

Sunday, January 19, 2014

Pink for girls, blue for boys… what would Roald Dahl do?


How do you feel when classic books, written and intended for ALL children, are remarketed today as “boys’” or “girls’” books – if not explicitly, then through subtle cues like colours and patterns on the cover?
I had the rare experience of going into an actual bookstore in a mall the other day, and because Naomi Rivka was with me, we ended up in the kids’ section.  (Okay, that’s a LIE – I end up in the kids’ section every time, whether I have kids with me or not!)
There, I spotted this brand-new, contemporary, SCREAMY PINK cover on Matilda, a classic, favourite Roald Dahl book:

A Google image search reveals several evolutions of this book’s cover over the years.  Here’s what our worn-out old copy looked like, back when it had an intact cover:

Here are a couple of other nice early gender-neutral covers:
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But this new stripey version is far from the first pinkish iteration, as you can see here.
Matilda by Roald Dahl
Same main character, new, girly-pink background.
I thought of this today because of a picture that’s been floating around on the Internet for a while now – an ad showing a little girl in the 1970s or early 80s, building with Lego.

The girl is wearing a neutral-coloured T-shirt (actually, there’s a bit of blue trim).  The Legos themselves are basic Lego colours:  blue, red, yellow, green, black.  Why?
Because Legos are a gender-neutral toy.
You can be a boy or a girl and still play with Lego – or at least, you could in 1981. 
In 2014, not so much:

0061711535Today, nobody seems quite so sure, as marketers rush to convince girls that all the best stuff comes wrapped up in a nauseatingly candy-coloured blend of pink and purple.  For more on the craziness and hype behind marketing to girls, particularly how it started, and the kind of money involved, there’s a great grown-up book called Cinderella Ate My Daughter, by Peggy Orenstein.
Here’s what I think Roald Dahl himself would have had to say about this type of silliness and any effort to sell Matilda as a book for or about GIRLS, instead of just as a book for and about PEOPLE:

0142410381I had a fun discussion with my kids around the table about this yesterday – about why Matilda is pink, for instance, but The BFG, which also revolves around a female main character (Sophie), is not.  (One kid thought this was because the other main character is a large and male giant, but I pointed out that the Queen of England also appears in the book, which ought to trump any old giant.)
0142410314In any event, we all agreed that the cover for Charlie and the Chocolate Factory, really ought to be brown (even though it isn’t).
And by the way – Roald Dahl?  Unbelievable writing role model.
Just in case you think book-writing comes easily to prolific and talented writers like Dahl, think again.  Here’s what he wrote in a letter to his own daughter, Lucy, about the process of creating his books:  “I must have rewritten Charlie [and the Chocolate Factory] five or six times all through and no one knows it…”
Here’s how the process went with Matilda:
…And now at last I have finished it, and I know jolly well that I am going to have to spend the next three months rewriting the second half. The first half is great, about a small girl who can move things with her eyes and about a terrible headmistress who lifts small children up by their hair and hangs them out of upstairs windows by one ear. But I've got now to think of a really decent second half. The present one will all be scrapped. Three months work gone out the window, but that's the way it is.
Think about that when you are weeping over cutting some precious paragraphs from a manuscript to comply with picky readers’ or editors’ (or – gasp! – kids’!) requests… three months work, out the window.
(I like this picture, by the way, because it proves that everybody used to smoke, not just evil stinky people!)
I bet I know what he’d do to anyone who tried to tell kids NOT to read it – which is essentially what a stripey pink cover announces to boys:  “Hey, guys, this is NOT for you!”

So what kept him going through all the difficulty?
My lucky thing is I laugh at exactly the same jokes that children laugh at and that’s one reason I’m able to do it.
Laughter.  Indeed.  The laughter of children, not boys, or girls… just kids.