Are you proud of who you are?
I hope so.
But as much as I wish I could say that pride was enough to create a great kids' book... it's not. The last few years have seen a flood of LGBTQ-oriented kids' books rushed into print... not all of which are fantastic.
I want to say this up-front: I am not LGBTQ, and I write this as a white woman married to a white man. So some would say that we're uniquely privileged... and that members of a minority should take any opportunity they can get to show families like theirs.
I don't want to argue with that. I want to believe, instead, that there's a way to do that that doesn't undermine the cause. And that way is to write a great story, with characters that happen to be... well, whatever type of characters you want to depict.
Why pride isn't enough
Too many of these books, particularly the classic ones, focus on the central "issue" - that there are two mommies, two daddies, that somebody is transgendered, whatever it is. And those kinds of books are not only generally tedious to read, but also don't appeal to children.
I have a mom and a mom... or a dad and a dad!
The message of these stories is usually pretty simple-minded: yes, we're different, but we're happy and our lives are full of love. It's certainly not an
offensive message....but neither is it very interesting, or engaging to a child.
I wear a dress, even though I'm a boy!
Children, by nature, take most situations at face value. It's us grown-ups who have trouble processing things that are new or different. If a kid has two mommies, she knows it and doesn't usually love it or hate it - it just IS. If somebody at school has a problem with that (probably not another kid; probably one of us closed-minded grown-ups), there are ways of reassuring kids without making a big deal out of it.
Another thing about "issues" books? They get dated REALLY fast.
Books centred around the theme of overcoming intolerance and educating the general public are going to seem very, very odd in a decade or two when it's just Not a Thing (as my 18-year-old daughter would say).
Want to know the worst offense when it comes to "issues" books?